Emotional Intelligence is an individual endeavor, a form of self-improvement that needs to be internalized each day. But leaders can’t be the only emotionally intelligent individuals on the team, and it’s more difficult and ill-advised to instill your philosophies and your values on another individual.
Here are 20 nuggets of wisdom worth keeping in mind on your team’s emotional journey.
- Technical capability gets you ahead in IT, not human skills. As a result, teams struggle on individual and group levels in demonstrating appropriate leadership and emotional intelligence.
- Teams often conflict and have trouble dealing with differing opinions. Yet having no conflict among your team is as troublesome as having too much conflict.
- Individuals struggle to get honest feedback about themselves or an honest picture of how others perceive them. The same can be said of leaders.
- Teams of all sizes struggle with trust that’s broken down because of the actions of poorly emotionally intelligent individuals.
- Leaders often fail simply because teams can’t find the time or budget to provide proper emotional intelligence training.
- “Emotional Intelligence is really about knowing yourself and how other people relate to you. That only has value when you put that into action.”
- “If you don’t know who you are, and you don’t know how people of different personality types and cultures will relate to you, it’s very difficult to have a positive interaction with them.”
- Developing an understanding between a team takes knowledge, patience and time.
- It’s as hard for many people to receive constructive criticism as it is for them to give it.
- Teams who can’t give or receive criticism bicker and lose productivity. Don’t allow teams who are capable and competent to go silent because they can’t share constructively.
- There’s a problem with emotional intelligence when your team is looking for someone else to solve its problems.
- Fear, apathy or issues within a team’s personal dynamics can all affect a team’s performance. Detecting these issues within your team could be as simple as watching body language.
- Teams that aren’t functional as a team are the worst possible outcome financially for your company.
- A single leader creating a culture based on fear can create all sorts of adverse behavior within the organization. Don’t create a culture in which there are consequences for giving constructive feedback.
- An emotionally intelligent team is one in which the results of the team are greater than the sum of its individual parts.
- You can accept, reject or defer judgment on the feedback people give you, but you have to acknowledge it.
- Consider an individual external coach; you might be part of the problem, or you might be THE problem.
- Create a personal advisory board of people who look at things very differently than you do, and welcome their unsolicited feedback.
- The shared stories of who you are a part of your culture. If you don’t have those shared experiences, you don’t have a culture. Be sure to reinforce it regularly and help new employees and bad apples understand that this dynamic is here to stay.
- Trust, Compassion, Consistency and Love are the 4 words that define Emotional Intelligence. Model the behavior you expect inside your team, or you won’t receive it.
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